Be Our Guest

Are you suffering from football fatigue yet?  Or are you more like me, feeling more than a little down about the prospect of so many Sundays without a game?  I promise, this is the last of the Super Bowl posts.  I’ve had quite a few people inquire about how a mom blogger from Indy winds up in the Super Bowl edition of Monday Morning Quarterback, though, so I thought I’d share the story.

Peter King and Elena

Every year, Indianapolis hosts the NFL Scouting Combine in late February.  Two years ago during the Combine, my friend Amy invited me to a Tweetup at Scotty’s Brewhouse featuring Sports Illustrated’s football writer Peter King.  She knew that I enjoyed football and thought I might have a good time.  I had no clue who Peter was, but give me a night out without the kids, some beer and fried pickles and I’ll listen to just about anyone.

I sat there for nearly 2 hours and was mesmerized.  One of the reasons I love football is for the stories.  Each team has its own host of characters, its history, its rivalries.  I’d never heard anyone talk football and weave these great stories through nearly every conversation.  I introduced myself to Peter afterwards, shared a little bit about my family, and gave him my business card with my blog info on it.

I became a big fan of his column and followed him on Twitter.  Every once in awhile we’d have a brief conversation on Twitter.  Last year we met again at the Combine Tweetup, and this time I brought Mike along.  We chatted again about the kids, the blog, and, of course, football.  I asked Peter to help me out with a donation to the school silent auction last fall, and he came through in a big way. So when he asked me for a favor last week of course I said, “Sure!”

His good friends from New Jersey were coming to the game on rather short notice, and there were no rooms to be found within 60 miles of Indy.  Did we have room?  Is that too weird?  Yes and no.  We were already hosting another out-of-town guest, my friend Patty.  And where did I meet Patty?  Um, the Combine Tweetup.  Homes are meant for fellowship … guests are always welcome.

When we tell people that hosting was our pleasure, we really mean it.  It seems selfish, actually – we got so much more out of it than our guests.  We enjoyed a great dinner out on Saturday evening with Peter and his friends, Mike and I slack-jawed as Doug Flutie stopped by our table.   I lived vicariously through Patty’s stories of being on the field for Media Day and rubbing shoulders with team owners at the Commissioner’s Party.  We got to know Peter’s friends, Jack and Karin, over pancakes and bacon at our kitchen table.  They graciously offered to host us in New York and Elena nearly zipped herself up in their luggage on the spot.  We pretended, just for a few minutes, that we were headed to the Super Bowl.

Tickets? You Need Tickets?

It’s easy to look at social media and complain about how it isolates us from actual human interaction.  But in so many ways I’ve found the exact opposite to be true.  I love the access it gives you to people you might never have had the chance to meet.  For the most part, if you interact often enough with people online, their true nature reveals itself.  Time and time again, this medium has introduced me to people who become real-life friends.

And that, my Internet friends, is how we found ourselves with guests from New Jersey and St. Louis in our home last weekend and on SI.com come Monday.  What a fun world we live in these days.

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Finding What Works

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Let me tell you a story about my coffee pot.  It was a nice, fancy coffeemaker.  Programmable.  Thermal carafe. Sleek and pretty.  Not long after the warranty expired, so did the electrical system.  It still worked, but if the thing was plugged in, it was making coffee -whether there was any water in it or not.  It made an audible spark whenever I plugged it in.  It was like an extra jolt with my morning caffeine to make sure I was really awake in the mornings.  It worked though, and so I held onto it.  One day I dropped the plastic lid to the carafe and the spout broke.  It would pour, but it was slow as molasses unless you held it just so.  Have you ever tried to do anything just so before you’re fully awake?  It still pretty much worked, and so I held onto it.  A few months ago the bottom of the carafe literally fell out.  It didn’t work anymore, and so I threw it out.  In the meantime, I started using my little french press instead.

The french press was a Christmas gift a couple of years ago.  I love it so much.  The coffee tastes better.  I love the process of making coffee in a french press.  Somehow it feels more intentional, special.  I found myself not missing the coffeemaker at all.  I didn’t miss the fear that one day it would be the cause of an epic house fire (and eventual divorce … if I burnt the house down over a cup of coffee Mike would never be able to let that one slide).  I didn’t miss the mornings when I would curse because I forgot to buy new coffee filters.  I didn’t miss it taking up precious space on my counter top.  Still, I felt like I should have a coffeemaker.  Good hostesses offer coffee.  Well-stocked kitchens have certain appliances, including a trusty coffeemaker.  I’ve never not had one.  I looked for a replacement carafe.  My mother gave me a new coffeemaker for Christmas.  I looked at the box for a long time, but never unpacked it.

The coffeemaker was not working for me.  I returned it and upgraded to a beautiful silver thermal french press.  I adore it.  It works for me.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what’s working for me and what simply is not.  So many of my processes and things that I’ve been doing aren’t working for me anymore.

I’ve been trying to follow Flylady’s cleaning routines faithfully for more than 8 years now and they just haven’t clicked.  Eight years I’ve been trying to do something that isn’t jiving with how I function as a homekeeper and yet I’ve persisted because so many people swear by it.  I think I’ll give this a go instead.

I’ve been holding myself to this rigid menu planning system because it’s supposed to make our lives easier and save us money.  So many weeks I’ve pushed off going to the grocery store when we desperately need it because I haven’t planned the menu yet.  Instead we end up eating out or grumbling at the fridge, all because I’m holding on to a routine that’s not working for me.  I think I’ll try this instead.

In the last two years I’ve been spending more time and energy trying to make this blog more professional and to some extent, profitable.  I’ve redesigned, looked into advertising, cared about SEO, pursued sponsored posts, taken on more reviews, tried to plan content and write ahead.  Some of that has worked, but most of it feels wrong.  I kept at it because that’s how you’re supposed to blog – if you want your passion for writing to translate into something tangible and of value.  If your numbers aren’t up and you’re not making any money, what’s the point, right?  I write posts in my mind that are so personal and meaningful, but never show them to you because they don’t fit in the “posting schedule,” or I’ve already committed to having sponsored post X go live on that day.  I’ve lost my love for sharing myself on here, and that’s not working for me.  I apologize if I’ve lost some of you along they way.  Will I never, ever do a sponsored post or review again?  Of course not.  But I will be ever so particular from now on  I think I’ll try not thinking so much instead.

My coffee tastes better than ever.  My Flylady binder is in the trash. I planned a couple of meals and it didn’t require an elaborate flow chart.  I wrote what was on my heart, not what will earn me $50.  And I included some pictures of my kids with the Martin’s chickens, because even if they have absolutely nothing to do with these words they make me happy.  And that works for me.

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Beauty Resolutions: Revamping the (Makeup) Kit and the Caboodles

Thanks to Walgreens for underwriting this post. I was paid as a member of the Clever Girls Collective, but the content is all mine. Visit http://www.discoverbeautywithin.com/

Everyone has embarrassing secrets, right?  Everyone has at least a few items, hidden away in their homes, that really shouldn’t see the light of day.  Items that, frankly, only need to see the inside of a trash can.

Let me introduce you to my facial faux-pas:
Caboodles
For those of you who came of age in the 80′s and early 90′s, you’ll recognize this relic.  It’s a Caboodles, a hip and stylish way to organize your make-up . . . IN 1989.

That make-up case has seen me through preparations for prom, college grab-a-dates, weddings (including my own), grown-up job interviews, and countless girls’ night outs and date nights.  It’s done it’s duty.  It’s time to let it go.

I wish I could tell you that the make-up inside wasn’t nearly as dated.  So maybe I don’t still have the nail polish Sassy magazine told me was a “must-have,”  but it’s still pretty sad.  I’m not sure what made me snap to reality, but one day I opened up my trusty Caboodles and realized that something had to be done.  It was time to make my first ever set of beauty resolutions.

1.  I am not 22 anymore.  I should treat my skin accordingly.

Sometimes I’m good about washing my face, sometimes I’m not.  Some days I wear moisturizer with sunscreen, other days I skip it.  In my 20s I could get away with that.  And for most of my 30s I have.  However, I would like to look decent well into my senior-citizen discount days.  Not in a creepy Botox and plastic surgery way, but in a way that shows I paid some attention to my skin.  And so the first order of business is to get into a decent skin care routine.  My goals for 2012 are to:

  • Try out one of those facial brushes.  I’m not quite ready to splurge on a fancy one yet, but I’m ready to give something like this from Olay a try.
  • Use a decent facial moisturizer on a daily basis.  Ideally I’d like something with SPF for the day, and something anti-aging for night.

2.  Make-up, like milk and some fashions, have an expiration date.


Expired, sad makeup

There’s no reason to still use mascara from 2010, especially when there are great ones out there for cheap.  Same goes for eye shadow and foundation.  Even if it isn’t expired, do I really need to hang on to a cracked tube of blue eye shadow?  When was the last time you saw a middle-aged mom in blue eye shadow and thought, “Now that’s classy!”

3.  It doesn’t have to cost $75 an ounce to be good.

In years past, I’ve had the time and the means to splurge on some really good stuff.  There are certain things that I’ve found are worth spending a little more on.  Foundation, for me, is one of them.  Make-up brushes are another.  The rest, though, can easily be purchased in drugstores.  I’ve put off buying newer versions of eye shadow, blush and lipstick because I haven’t had the time or the money to go to my old stand-bys.  This year I resolve to have some fun and update my collection in the drugstore aisles.

Affordable Makeup Favorites

Some of my favorites that can be found in the drugstore aisles: Essie nail polish, Maybelline Super Stay Lip Color, Burt’s Bees Tinted Lip Balm, Yes to Carrots Lip Tint and Body Butter

 

4.  I deserve more than leftover Quality Inn hotel samples.

I buy new bottles of shampoo for Mike.  The kids have organic bath salts.  Me?  I’ve been making myself use up the old hotel shampoo bottles and hair products that I never quite loved.  My resolution this year is to allow myself to splurge on some products for myself.

Now, if I could only resolve to back away from the Lip Smackers and the Caboodles.

What’s your favorite drugstore beauty steal?  I’d love to add it to my shopping list!

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